Men - a species unto their own!

I have just read an offensive hub about how to treat woman. According to this male hubber, woman are easily 'bought' with flowers and chocolates. Little treats to throw at us and appease us!

Are men and woman really that different in the way that they want to be treated? In my opinion not. I am sure that most men enjoy to be 'treated' with a good meal, the notorius, over used, cliqued and worn-out 'candlelit dinner'. The latter is about as offensive as receiving red roses and heart shaped chocolates on valentine's day, but I digress that is perhaps for another discussion!

We all need attention, kindness, consideration and most of all mutual respect. Like any living organism if it does not receive attention it wilts, try not watering a plant for a couple of weeks. There are many psychological studies to prove that abandoned babies (e.g. in Eastern European orphanages) do not develop social skills and are emotionless. So in any relationship both parties should give attention to the other.

Consideration: Every morning my husband gets the shower water at the perfect temparature, makes me a cup of coffee and gets my car keys and house keys ready. Then he walks with me to the car and lovingly send me on my way. You see it is not that I am a spoilt brat, but he works from home and I face at least an hour long journey through traffic to work. This is consideration, kindness and caring! Flowers die, chocolates are fattening but this sends me into the day with a smile and a warm and fuzzy feeling. I have enough consideration for my husband to support him in his chosen sport. I will miss a preferred TV programme so that he can watch his etc, etc...

Mutual respect: we should respect each other for our intellect, our human-ness, our spirituality, our essence. Respect me/him enough to set me/him free.

Woman do not need any person to make them feel better about themselves, this should come from within. We do not need anyone to validate who we are. Men who 'allow' the woman to shop, or give them a day off from the chores - how condescending!!!! Why should there be an allocation of his/her chores? As a couple we are a team we share the tasks without asking each other, without having a roster.

Woman do not have to be bought, bribed, pander to, or giving permission to do/BE. We are just like men, so treat us just like you would want to be treated!